Anal Sex: the guide to doing it right and with pleasure
Surrounded by myths and curiosity in equal parts, anal sex can be very pleasurable when done with the correct information. The key is not a complicated technique, but three things: lubrication, calm, and communication. Here we tell you everything.
Also known as: anal sex · anal · anal penetration · from behind · prostate
Key facts
- Interaction type
- Anal stimulation or penetration
- Active anatomy
- Pénis / Doigt
- Receptive anatomy
- Anus
- Main stimulation
- Anal / Prostate
- Participants
- 2
Anatomy and biomechanics
External and internal anal stimulation: the anus and rectum are innervated by sensitive nerve endings, and in people with a prostate, the angle allows for its stimulation. Unlike the vagina, there is no natural lubrication, so lubricant is essential; the sphincter muscle requires relaxation and gradualness to avoid discomfort or injury. Hygiene and safety (condom, do not go from anus to vagina) are key.
Why this position works
The anal area is very sensitive and, when well stimulated, offers intense and distinct pleasure; in people with a prostate, it can lead to very powerful orgasms. It also has a load of intimacy and trust that many couples value. When done calmly and with good preparation, the result surprises those who try it without prejudice.
Variations of this position
1. Spoon position: the most recommended to start
Both on your sides, gentle anal penetration with the receiver controlling the pace.
Side by side, the receiver controls the depth and everything is gradual. The best introduction to anal sex.
- Get into the spoon position, on your sides.
- Abundant lubrication and very gradual penetration.
- The receiver sets the pace.
2. Receiver on top: full control
The receiver sits on top of the partner lying down, controlling anal penetration.
The receiver sits on top and fully controls the depth and speed.
- The receiver sits on top.
- Lower slowly, controlling the depth.
- No rush, with lube.
3. Soft doggy: when there's already trust
The receiver on all fours, slow and lubricated anal penetration.
The doggy angle with slow movements, for when there's already experience and relaxation.
- Adopt the doggy position.
- Slow movements and plenty of lube.
- Communicate at all times.
Setups and participants
Couple · 2 people base setup
- Gay Most common
- Hetero Most common
Frequently asked questions
Does anal sex hurt?
It shouldn't if there is lubrication, gradualness, and relaxation; pain is a sign of going too fast.
What position is best to start with?
Spooning or with the receiver on top, because they give control of the pace to the receiver.
Is it safe?
Yes with lubricant, condom, hygiene, and not going from anus to vagina; always go slowly.
Does the prostate provide more pleasure?
In people with a prostate, its stimulation can be very intense and lead to orgasm.
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Sources and references
- Literatura de sexología clínica y ergonomía sexual
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